Fred Phelps died.
And now words are getting spilled. I will add a few letters to the end of this era.
Like all responsible mainline Protestants, he outraged me. He said what? How dare he! He was giving Christians a bad reputation.
On the other hand, Christians were already doing that.
I would get angry, imagine my own counter protest, invent signs in my mind.
Once I grew tired of my own outrage, it became clear Westboro Baptist Church was barely a church. It was a family business. Nor were they in any sense effective: their outrageousness forced other Christians to moderate their equally pernicious language.
Marriage equality continued. Possibly, because of the utter ridiculousness of his project, faster.
I can’t think of a single religious person I know, or even one I do not know, who would want to be identified with the antics of Westboro Baptist.
So all that anti-gay protesting? Theater. Not that WBC thought they were performing, but they definitely were. They were playing a part in orchestrating a response, one that was deliberate and scripted.
I began to experience reading about Westboro as if they were a travelling sideshow. I found my own personal, perpetual, outrage morphing into a deep sense of incomprehension bordering on entertainment. I didn’t understand what they were saying or doing. They were a spectacle speaking a completely different language, whose intentions were obscure.
And so the best responses to Westboro were ones that treated them like performance art. Counter “protestors” wrote signs like God Hates Figs. God hates Signs. God hates Little Tiny Fuzzy Kittens. When faced with hyperbole, go with it. Can I add a few? God hates low fat yogurt and toe fungus.
Sometimes I feel WBC was a huge diversion. Many other groups not only teach the same beliefs, but they organize and lobby. That’s where we should be resisting. But it’s hard not to watch the circus.
The internet asks for prayers, to not get caught up in returning hate for hate. Such a view is faithful and reasonable. But the ease for which I can do this is because, to be honest, I was never harmed by the man. His outrage was never my own. He was tired, angry, sick. He was pitiful. In the end, the play was outrageous, so he got what he wanted: attention. I gave some to him. But I’ll looking forward to the moment I don’t care.
As our country forgets how to fear gay people, he will become a curio.
Rumors abound that Phelps had gay tendencies himself. It fits what Episcopal Clergy have known: the closet is the most violent place for a gay person. That rage turns inward killing the soul; and it turns outward wreaking its own havoc.
My real sympathy lies with his children and the abuse that they experienced first hand. I admire their resilience.
So my wish? In heaven, he’s out of the closet, and enjoying himself for the first time. Let him become, instead, an angel who liberates others from the self-hate they find being inflicted upon others.
I’ll let others bless the man. I neither celebrate nor mourn – the family and his enemies can do that. The rest of us? Now, to more important matters.